The self esteem of a Bhindi
I hate Bhindis (okras, lady’s fingers). When I go to the vegetable market, I pass over Bhindi, even if they are fresh and tender. I do not even see them. Should the bhindi have low self esteem? Should the bhindi start believing that because I have not considered it, there is something wrong with it?
If my boss loves Bhindi and he is coming to my house for dinner, I will pick up the Bhindi. Should the Bhindi now have high self esteem?
The point is, when people ignore me, or do not return my overtures of friendship, I feel rejected. When I feel rejected, slowly I start believing that I must have done something wrong, or there is something wrong with me.
People interact with me when they need me. sometimes they need, sometimes they do not. Some people like me, some do not. Some people have time for me, some do not. Why should I believe there is something wrong with me? Why is my self esteem going up and down based on other person’s reaction towards me?
It is all a matter of taste. There is nothing wrong with the Bhindi