Reframing Unhappiness
I am unhappy when things do not go as I want. The unhappiness is due to unfulfilled desires. It happens when the rest of my world does not have the same view of a perfect world as I have. I think I have done a good job. My boss thinks otherwise and tells me so. […]
The intentions of terrorists are good!
If I say, from a belief point of view, even terrorists have good intentions, there is a sense of discomfort. When I do something ‘wrong’, I do it because of 3 major reasons a.Ignorance: I do not know at that moment that it is ‘wrong’. It is not deliberate. This can happen because: a.I am […]
There is something wrong
If I analyse any bad experience, I generally conclude that there was/is something wrong with me or what I did, or something wrong with the other party involved in the transaction, or with the world (circumstances, parents, boss, government). If that transaction has been beneficial to another person then he obviously does not come to […]
Beliefs or frames of reference
If I have put my child to sleep and am relaxing in front of the TV with a glass of well deserved Laphroig in my hand, and he comes crawling out, I get pissed off. My belief is that I need to relax. The child’s belief is that he does not want to sleep. On […]
So you got rejected!
I have (had?) this dream company that I want to get into. It came to the campus but I did not even make it to the first base. Others, less competent than me, made it. After a bout of depression, I sat down and pondered deeply about what happened. Did I really prepare well? The […]